“One thing I ask of the Lord, this is what I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord and to seek him in his temple.” ~ Psalm 27:4 NIV
I have talked to many people and friends on why they hate being single. Simply put, they hate being alone. It’s a fact that people need people. We are created for community and for many of us, it’s a daily struggle to be alone. I have a family member who has lived alone for almost twenty years and I know a friend who has never lived alone. She either has always lived with family and friends or has been in a relationship nearly her whole life. In both cases, how can the Lord’s presence be known?
When I went to go visit my family member who has lived alone for almost twenty years, the ambience of her house was amazing. Everything was so clean, well organized, beautiful, simple, and healthy. More importantly, there was a presence I sensed: a presence of comfort, peace, and security. This family member has lived alone after immigrating to the States when she was in her thirties. She has been a Christian for most of her life and has made it a necessity to pursue the Lord with all her heart even if it meant for her to be in a foreign place alone. We have kept close communication throughout the years and has been one of my most loyal mentors and an inspiration to my faith.
When I lived with her for three months, the Lord revealed to me the struggles she has been through, what her life is like alone, and how her faith has grown. Whenever I talked to my family member about her living alone, she never acknowledged she was alone. She would always say things like, “When the Lord and I went to the store,” or “The Lord woke me up,” (she doesn’t use an alarm to wake up in the morning), or “I scratched the Lord’s car” (referring to the new car that she bought). The Lord was always on her mind. And although my family member worries a lot, especially living in a large city, she seemed very content and at peace when I was around her.
The Lord says to Moses in Exodus 33:14, “’My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest’” (NIV). After that, Moses replies by saying, “’If your Presence does not go with us, do not send us up there’” (NIV). In other words, Moses was going to stay put until he knew for sure that the Lord’s Presence was going to be with him. For most of us, we don’t even think or acknowledge the Presence of God. It’s quite easy to not think about it. But for Moses, he would not take a step forward without Him, and my family member does not forget about Him when she steps out of her house.
The amazing thing is that even if we don’t think of the Lord’s presence, He is there. Maybe not always in the way we imagine, but He is still there. In other words, when we are alone or with people, He is there! David says in Psalm 139:7-10, “Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle to the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast” (NIV).
Sometimes when we enter a house or meet a person, we might sense the absence of the presence of the Lord. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the Lord is not there; He is omnipresent. But let me tell you, not only is it easy to not know He is there, but it is also easy to reject Him. And if we sense that the Lord’s presence does not dwell in an individual or household or anywhere, that is an open invitation for Satan to come. No wonder my family member’s house is a holy dwelling. She has made no room for Satan but for the Lord and the Lord only.
Whether we are “alone” or not, make it a priority to not only allow the Lord to dwell in our household or within us, but also to dwell in His house. When our eyes are fixed not on us and the people around us, it is the perfect time to seek the Lord and to open our doors for Him.