“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” ~ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NIV)
A friend and I recently began life groups at the church we have been attending for some time. I’ve been looking for ways to get involved and my friend has just needed a community. Luckily, we were able to connectIn our first night, I was surprised when my friend broke down after talking about me being the only Christian friend she had. I’ve known this friend since our freshman year in college and have seen her spend time with a lot of Christians. However, after we graduated, I hadn’t realized that she lost so many of those friendships. I couldn’t imagine how hard it must have been without any Christian support, no community for more than a year. That is not right.
Even before sin…when the world was perfect…even then…God still created someone for Adam to keep him company. Genesis 2:18 says,”The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him”’ (NIV). Sure Adam was a human, but in this perfect world, I would have pictured him to spend so much time with animals and nature and God. Back then, God directly talked to Adam. Why would the Lord still provide a companion?
Being humans, we have this strong desire for human relationships, some more than others. Paul never married but he was always surrounded by people. And when he was not physically talking to people, he’d write letters. On the other hand, when I was living alone in Korea, people were always around at all hours of the day. But somehow, loneliness was a huge struggle in the beginning. For almost a month, I was not able to contact family unless I went to a place that had wifi. I thirsted for something more than a “presence.” At the time, I didn’t realize how much I needed community.
From living alone to living with people, I find myself much more productive when I am living with others. There is a somewhat lifted mood when my sister comes back from classes or my friend comes back from work. I’m not saying that community it more important than having a relationship with the Lord. Both are important and I cannot emphasize how necessary it is to have a relationship with God! Because when there is no one, I mean no one…there is no one to turn to but God. In addition, community is something that God Himself blesses us with because He knows us and He knows what we need.
The reason I mentioned Adam and Eve in the beginning was not to focus on marriage or being in a couple but to point out relationships with people in general. Rather than dwelling on our aloneness, we need to be taking advantage of relationships. And yes, the church is one of them. It is there that we can find believes who will influence us in an amazing and spiritual way. They are there to keep us accountable, to help us mature in our faith, and for us to see examples of godly men and women. For some of us, we need to throw away the discomfort excuse. Living for God should never be comfortable. On the other side, instead of looking for a significant other to fulfill our loneliness, it is within a community that we can be fulfilled with love, especially from God.
Hope everyone has a great week. Comment below and let us know how you keep community. We love hearing from you<3