This famous poem is one of my favorite poems because life is about the journey and the forks in the road. We don’t get to walk two paths and it seems like somewhere, someone decided that there was only one right choice for the path your life should take. If you don’t go to the right college or marry your soul mate or choose the right path then life as you know it will be terrible. It’s like they decided God was waiting to see if you would know whether or not you should work at Company A or Company B and was checking to see if you picked wisely.
Hear me out – I think we should be praying over what decisions we’re making and I do believe that some choices are clearly right while others are clearly wrong, but I also think that there can be multiple right choices. I don’t think God is going to be upset if I attend Church A over Church B as long as it teaches Biblical truth and helps me to grow in faith. I think He’s perfectly happy whether I am teaching English or working as a paralegal as long as He remains my center and foundation.
It’s not that He doesn’t care because He cares so much. It’s that He’s your father and He’s not trying to dictate your life. He’s not a micromanager. He’s not waiting to see if you mess up. He loves you and wants you to make your own decisions..
I’ve learned to ask Him to shut doors that I’m not meant to go through and as long as I’m paying attention, He has clearly done so. He’s okay with me making my own decisions as long as they don’t conflict with the Bible or what He has called me to do. If I am trying to follow Him and am studying His Word and praying, He will guide me.
“Give me understanding, that I may keep your law and observe it with my whole heart. Lead me in the path of your commandments, for I delight in it.” – Psalm 119:34-35
The thing is God desires a relationship and a relationship isn’t about Him controlling your every move. If that’s what He desired, we wouldn’t have free will and it wouldn’t be a relationship. Life is all about choices and some are big and some are small but I think the majority fall into the grey. Does it really matter if you attend College A over College B? Does it matter if you take the job with Company Y over Company Z? No, I don’t think it does unless God has convicted you over a particular choice.
Our path is more about our heart and where the focus is. If we continuously choose television over prayer time or work over family, we might have a heart problem not a decision problem. The problem isn’t really the choices it’s why we make the decisions we make. If I choose to follow Path A because I think I will make mega money, then I might want to check and make sure I haven’t put money on a pedestal and called it idol. If I choose Path B because my “soul mate” lives there, I might want to check my heart and make sure I haven’t made a relationship into an idol.
So the point of all of this is to tell you to let go of the stress of making the “right” choice and ask yourself these questions:
- What does the Bible say for or against this?
- Has God called me to specifically do or not something?
- Has He intentionally shut a door I’m trying to open?
- If you’re comfortable that your decision doesn’t conflict with an answer in 1-3, then choose what you prefer.
I pray that this helps offer some insight into the decisions you’re being called to make. Let us know what you think about making godly decisions by commenting below. ❤