Happy Valentines Day! I want to talk about the season of singleness. Why is being single something that people view with pity or despair? Why do we think that a single season is merely a time to wait on God to act? Why do we view this as a woman’s problem and not recognize that men struggle with this too.
Being single is not a disease or a punishment! Being single is a blessing and should be treated as such. This does not mean that you won’t feel tired of being single but guess what? Sometimes married people feel tired of being married. God always has his reasons for the season we’re in. It’s not a punishment but an opportunity.
I, personally, am truly enjoying my single season. Again, this doesn’t mean I don’t have days where I wonder if I will always be alone, but overall (95% of the time), I am thankful for the freedom I have in my single season. Want to sleep until 10am on a Saturday morning? No problem. My best friend with two little ones doesn’t have that luxury. Want to eat cereal for dinner? No problem. Want to have a movie marathon? No problem. Want to spend the entire day in the Word? No problem. Want to volunteer all day? No problem.
Being single is a blessing. I don’t have to worry about a significant other or children because the only person I am responsible for is myself. This allows me to serve God whenever and wherever He calls me. He called me to South Korea and I was able to make the decision without getting anyone else’s “buy-in” or worrying about it how it would impact a family. I was free to simply obey Him without hesitation.
“And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit.”
– 1 Corinthians 7:34 (men see 7:32).
Being single allows me to focus on serving Him with no conflicts or compromises. Marriage means that I’d have to split my time and energy between my husband, my children and serving the Lord. Neither one is better than the other. It’s just a different season.
Both are gifts and both have purposes for you. I ask that no matter which season you’re in right now, that you thank God for it. Take a look at your life and really see the blessings that He has given you. Everything you have is a gift from Him. Your time, your family, your friends, your gifts, your job, everything is from Him. It’s up to you to decide how to respond to it.
Do you complain because you’re single at 30? Do you complain because you married “too young”? No matter what season you’re in, I challenge you to find contentment in it. Paul says: “For I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound.” (Philippians 4:11-12). If you’re unhappy with the season you’re in, I suggest you talk about it with God. Ask Him to open your eyes and help you move past the unhappiness. I challenge you to embrace your season and do the best you can.
If you’re single, spend the time really serving Him and getting to know Him better. We are called to love Him with all our heart. This is also a great time to indulge in accomplishing some of the dreams you have and working on your personal development.
If you’re married, spend the time praying over your family and serving your family’s needs. Pray with your husband and do devotionals with your children.
No matter what, embrace the season.